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Disclaimer: I wouldn’t really punch anyone in the throat for saying stupid things, but there are points in time when I wish that I could temporarily relieve folks of their vocal capabilities until they installed that brain-mouth filter. I picked this up on another blog, Random Blogette. I don’t know if I will do this regularly, but today I had one I couldn’t resist. This person made me so mad, I want to revoke her vocal card for a while. It’s not the only dumb thing she’s said or done, but it’s probably among the worst.

In an interview for Elle UK, Kristen Stewart said the following:

What you don’t see are the cameras shoved in my face and the bizarre intrusive questions being asked, or the people falling over themselves, screaming and taunting to get a reaction. The photos are so… I feel like I’m looking at someone being raped. A lot of the time I can’t handle it. It’s f***ed. I never expected that this would be my life.”

Are you serious right now? I imagine rape is one of those unique experience that you just can’t compare to anything else in any realistic fashion, or at least you shouldn’t. You can draw comparisons, but they are hardly adequate or accurate.

I have a cousin who wrote a book comparing the process of becoming a visionary/having a vision to having a baby, complete with trimesters, afterbirth, etc.; still wasn’t close to carrying and giving birth to a baby. Birth of a Nation–not the same either. I guess it’s supposed to invoke the pain, travail, the effort and ultimate reward, the natural of birth, using that to better illustrate its cause, but it’s just not the same.

What was Miss Stewart trying to invoke? Forceable invasion of privacy, people taking things you don’t want them to have, a sense of powerlessness in your situation, maybe. But unlike birth comparisons, she ignore a lot of the associated imagery and feelings, the literal meaning of rape. I can’t, as one commentor on the story did, say “well you invited them (paparazzi, etc) in, ” any more than I can say that to a date rape victim. But to some extent, when you were auditioning and trying to get work, you had to know, or even hope for, the fame you have. I have a hard time believing she’s been taken advantage of or victimized. She couldn’t have thought she could just make her little movies and be left alone, that the public wouldn’t take immediate ownership of her personal and professional life, could she?

Rape implies violence, someone exerting power over you to do harm to you and getting aroused by it. Rape leaves you feeling stigmatized and continually traumatized. It affects future relationships long after the actual act is over. It can cause mental health issues. It takes away your voice and overpowers your will (at least in that moment). You don’t court it, invite it, or welcome it, even a little bit.

People in my generation and younger are guilty of being desensitized to words/images, using words out of context and changing (or adding to) their meaning arbitrarily; I suspect all generations are. But this isn’t a word we can afford to let lose its potency.

Someone once told me if you are being raped you should yell “fire,” because people run to help in a fire and flee when they hear “rape.” I remember thinking this was a sad statement of society. It seems rape is a lonely crime, on that others will simply ignore because it’s uncomfortable.

Shame on you, Kristen Stewart, for trivializing this. Maybe you have a lazy vocabulary, or feel stung by the “paps” and media scrutiny, but you still deserve to be sent to a rape counseling center and made to see the results of actual victimization, actual rape, along with ear pulling and finger wagging. I’ve never seen a Kristen Stewart movie, and I’m not sure I ever will (they are not my kind of movies). Whatever she does next, hopefully she sticks to scripts; her tongue can NOT be trusted.