Every single (unattached) woman I know has marry me moments. A marry me moment occurs when you have to do something you don’t want to do, or have to deal with something you don’t want to deal with. It’s the realization that if you were married, there would be someone else to do these things. I get attacked y marry me moments when I:
have to pump gas, especially after dark
have to take out the trash (especially after dark)
have to kill a big bug (especially Palmetto bugs…eek!)
have to negotiate
have a doctor or dentist appointment involving sedation
have to make major future financial decisions.
Tuesday we had an informational meeting on our 401k plan. I hadn’t begun contributing and had no idea how. When we first got the booklet, Receptionist Chick merely took it home and handed it over to her fiancee and let him help her choose.. And that was my marry me moment.
I am good at keeping up with bills and stretching money, but investments and types of savings aren’t things I’m used to setting up & making decisions on. I worked at a bank so I have an idea, but I find making decisions about money now that will affect me when I am twenty-five daunting.
Then I read a blog from a woman starting over after divorce. She had to learn to develop a budget and be financially responsible for her familly. I imagine it must be scary to HAVE to learn about finance with children looking to you to provide for them, or to learn about the family finances after a spouse dies.
There are so many things that need to be in place before marriage; I am not minimizing the gravity of the decision. But sometimes, muddling through investment portfolios, scheduling appointments, exercising alone in my apartment, or taking out the trash, I feel like I’d say yes for the ring off a pop can and a promise to pump my gas!
Ok, I admit it. I get attacked by marry me moments. But thenI put on my big girl pants & do it myself. Afterwards, I’m very proud of myself. Am I the only one who suffers from this affliction? What causes your marry me moments? How do you deal with these non-feminist approved moments?
pillowchats said:
I agree there are moments and things that I pass onto my boyfriend and have him deal with it (taking the trash out and such). But there are also Divorce Him moments like when he is hogging the remote control, or when he doesn’t want to iron his shirts, and when he avoids dealing with his mother so you have to…
The grass is always greener on the other side – until you get to the other side and realize it was only greener because it wasn’t yours.
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2blu2btru said:
Lol…ah yes there are those to heck with this moments too…I just happen to have been near pen & paper when a marry me & deal with this moment struck! I like where I am in my relationship most of the time, though. But divorce him moments may be a future post!
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marriagecoach1 said:
Real women need real men. Most women don’t take care of their men very well.
Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder
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Emily said:
Right now I’m not in a relationship, so I don’t have any of those moments XD And I’m a pretty independent person. I know how to budget and finance (ish. It’s still more than my mom knows, ha). I kill bugs all the time. Except nasty big spiders. I make my mom’s fiance kill those XD
So, I dunno. I’m not sure exactly what my “marry me” moment is going to be. Or moments. (:
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2blu2btru said:
Marry me moments aren’t based on having someone to marry. They are just moments where it would be easier to have someone else there (such as a stepdad to kill spiders, lol!). I prefer the long term solution of marrying someone and having them pump gas forever to the temporary one, lol!
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gwriter85 said:
LOL, from a man’s point of view it sounds like you’re looking for a man to do the things you don’t want to do. Which is cool. A real man who loves you will be happy to feel like he’s needed but also happy to know you can do these things for yourself. Hope that helps
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2blu2btru said:
That is exactly what I am saying, lol! In return, of course, I am willing to do things he doesn’t want to do as well–remembering to send birthday cards and mother’s day gifts, buying gifts…whatever.
I realize that it’s important I can do it for myself as well. I’m “independent,” after all
Thanks for the male perspective!
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Globug said:
This has nothing to do with the subject but I was wondering:
1. Is Mr. Perfect a virgin?
2. Is Mr. Perfect staying celabate with you are is he allowed to sow his wild oats until you two marry (if that is the ultimate plan)?
3. How old is Mr. Perfect?
These questions may be in some of your previous blogs but I am new to your site and haven’t had time to start at the beginning and catch up.
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2blu2btru said:
Mr. Perfect is not a virgin, but he has been celibate for several years, pre-me. His celibacy doesn’t have much to do with me at all, but I expect him to remain so in our relationship (no sowing wild oats here! I do not agree!). Mr. Perfect is a year older than me, 26.
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Globug said:
That is wonderful and refreshing….somebody is trying to live right (as the old saints would say)….stay strong and stay centered in Christ!!!
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