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Created by Phil Scoville on June 25, 2005 Down...

It may seem like you two are the only two people in the world, however... Image via Wikipedia

Catching up on my TV watching today has me thinking about a very important issue. I’m sure many of you have heard the saying that when you marry someone you marry their family. When combining lives, you adopt your partner’s family, friends, co-workers and fellow congregation members to varying extents. Anytime you combine so many different personalities, there are bound to be misunderstandings and miscommunications.

On the Real Housewives of Atlanta, model Cynthia was getting married. When her fiancé/future husband, Peter, proposed to her, Cynthia’s sister, Mal, helped him set up the elaborate proposal.  Yet, in the days leading up to the wedding, Mal, and several other family members and friends expressed to Cynthia that they didn’t think her marrying Peter right now is a good idea. Mal even debated giving Cynthia her marriage license so she could get married on the day of the wedding.

This has me thinking about what happens when you’re ready to say “I do,” but your family or friends don’t agree that you are ready, or even that you ever marry this person at all. How do you know when you’re ready to be married? Furthermore, how would you deal with opposition from friends and family members to your wedding/marriage? If it’s true that indeed you marry your partner’s assorted others as well as your partner, how do you resolve any animosity or mistrust that exists between the parties?

This also clearly illustrates why you cannot involve your family and friends completely in your relationship. If you always run to them with every qualm or problem you have with your significant other, their perception of them is bound to be skewed unfavorably. It’s important to not sabotage the relationship between your significant other and your family and friends.

I’m interested in knowing your two cent’s worth.