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Freestyle Friday: Coming Attractions

15 Friday Jun 2012

Posted by Erica Welch in Freestyle Friday, Goals

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31 Day challenge, challenge, domain name, Love Addiction, updates, website

There are so many things I want to do with my little corner of the internet, but not all of it is going according to plan. I still don’t have a logo, but I did get the website design started.I have a color palette, some fonts, and a general home page layout. I usually end up working with my website team (aka Mr. Perfect) on Saturdays, so maybe we’ll get a little further this week. I am still praying for clarity of vision, to find a good domain name and umbrella concept for my site. I am kicking around a few different ideas, but I welcome new ones.

I am working hard on developing a challenge to help women do a little introspective and develop the ability to be who they really are behind all the artifice. If you follow me on twitter (@2blu2btru), you’ve heard me speaking about my Naked challenge. Now I have 31 days worth of topics and challenges; now I just have to develop them into posts and get some participants. If you want to be a part of my as-yet-to-be-named Naked challenge, email me at 2blu2btru4u@gmail.com.

I have been watching Love Addiction on TV One. Is anyone else watching the show? I am addicted to watching it. There are some serious issues going on in relationships out here! The one I watched this week was about a man who refused to use labels for his relationship, withheld affection, wanted an open relationship, and cursed out a tarot card reader for saying his current (lady? woman? homieloverfriend?) whatever was his soul mate. The woman, who was affectionate and successful, seemed to think that expectations were oppressive and she shouldn’t put her expectations on him. She seemed to be willing to take whatever he would give, because when he did give it, it was great. I have so much to say about this, but I have to go to work. The season finale of Love Addiction is next Wednesday at 8pm on TV One. Watch it with me so we can tweet it out and do a facebook discussion.

I’m not even going to touch the Chris Brown/Drake debacle, Kim K. buying Ye a Lambo, Kim Zolciak’s wedding, or the new season of Bridezillas…at least not on this blog. I’m just going to say I have been doing a lot more reading, and will be doing more next week. Reading is fundamental.

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Wednesday Wisdom: Gasp for It!

11 Wednesday May 2011

Posted by Erica Welch in Goals, Running

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challenge, Endorphin, exercise, Feeling, Motivation, running, Wednesday Wisdom

Yesterday, I ran for the first time since 2003. Yes, you read that right. Keep in mind, I’ve been struggling with jogging, with working my way up to running, with feeling like I’d never run again. I didn’t know what I was missing, what part of the joy of running was escaping me, but I knew something wasn’t right. Ever since I started this journey to finding my fit passion, I knew running used to be it, but I couldn’t remember why; now I do.

I finally got to re-experience something. Not just runner’s high. I didn’t get to feel light legs. I didn’t have an “easy” run. But what I did get to experience, for a few seconds, is that moment when you feel like you’ve outpaced your skin you are moving so fast, yet in your head, there’s complete stillness. It was a moment where my form naturally fell into place. I was an economy of motion. I gradually increased my speed, like a car getting back up to speed after stopping at a red light. Holy crap; I’m running! I’m really all out running. Am I bouncing? Did I even touch the ground the last five feet? This is awesome!

Of course, all those thoughts burst the bubble, and I was literally reaching for the mile marker by the end of it. I doubled over the minute I stopped running (after I stopped the iPod; let’s not get crazy). Holding my thighs didn’t help, so I held a hip. Still no. Oh no, I’m going to hurl air!  Why did I come running right after Smokey Bones? I opened the car and lay across the back seat, feeling like maybe I’d popped a lung. My throat burned and my chest was sore. My abs were cursing me out like a fisherman’s wife, and what my legs/feet were saying isn’t printable. After a minute or two, though, that receded. The feeling of accomplishment still hasn’t, though.

I realized that I’ve been holding back all of this time, afraid to be gasping for breath, afraid to push my body, afraid to stop concentrating so hard on my form and allow my body to find its own rhythm. I didn’t think I had it in me to do what runners do naturally.

Have you been holding back, not giving something your best because you’re afraid of failure? Are you only putting a safe amount of effort into your dreams, just plugging along at a sedate pace, feeling like something is missing from doing what you love, yet not knowing what it could be? Maybe it’s time to really push it. Show yourself the wall and start climbing even before you fully form the thought. Leave it all on the course/court/page. You may be wheezing and gasping by the end, but you’ll recover. You won’t even remember that part. What you’ll remember is how great it felt to fly full tilt towards reclaiming a bit of your passion.

I’m not suggesting, I’m telling you: get that book done. Get your workout clothes on and get your butt out of the house. Press the edges of your comfort zone. If 500 words a day is comfortable, do 550, then 600, then 650. If 20 minutes on the elliptical is comfortable, do 22 (handy ten percent rule). If you can comfortably run a mile, run 1.1, or run faster. If you’re work is “finished,” send it out to be judged: run a race, send out a query, submit to a magazine, apply for grad school, test your fluency with a native speaker. The only way to improve is to challenge yourself, and the only way to measure your improvement is to test it. More important than that, even if you wind up sore and out of breath, you’ll feel better than you’ve felt in a long time.

At least, that’s my two cents. Leave yours in the comment section.

XOXO

2blu2btru

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Why Resolutions Have a Bad Rep

20 Monday Dec 2010

Posted by Erica Welch in Goals, Random

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challenge, goals, new year resolutions, resolve, testing, trials

Two New Year's Resolutions postcards

New Year's Resolution Postcards--Can someone send me one in July? Image via Wikipedia

I’ve told you I no longer make resolutions, because goals with definite timeframes (or at least definite steps to follow) are a lot easier for me to stick to. Even though they don’t work for me, I realize the positives and purposes of resolutions. Lately, however, I notice a million blogs bashing resolutions, as if they’ve done something to ruin their lives. New Year’s resolutions don’t go around shooting dogs or tying people to chairs and stuffing them with chocolate, so why do people hate them so much?

I think the problem is not with resolutions, but with our responses to getting what we wished for. The thing is, when we pray for patience, God doesn’t just rain patience on us. We don’t just wake up and the morning gridlock no longer bothers us, or waiting in line becomes a zen filled experience. What happens is we find our patience being pushed to its limits more and more, until we find we can tolerate much more than we ever thought we could…or get arrested…or into a fistfight at Wal-Mart… or scream at our loved ones on the phone. In other words, we are given opportunities to develop the skills to get what we asked for.

When you write down your resolutions and decide to lose weight or write that book, you send out the call to test your resolve. If you don’t want to be challenged, don’t declare you want to do anything. Just be regular, boring, doing just enough to get by you. But if you do decide to declare something, be prepared to work for it. You will be presented with all sorts of better alternatives than going to the gym and coming home sore. People you haven’t heard from in years will call you as soon as you sit down to write. Just remember, you invited the challenges when you welcomed the desired end result.

People get upset with and bash resolutions because they fail to stick to their resolutions; they didn’t “resolve” to persevere, and now they deride making the commitment at all. Having a resolution is not bad; realizing you’ve bitten off more than you can chew is not bad either. What’s bad is being so afraid to fail, you hate being definitive about what you want and let it stay nebulous enough for you to achieve a tiny fraction of what you could have if you had pushed yourself to be more.

Leave people who make resolutions and goals alone. Leave resolutions alone. If you are making resolutions this year, don’t let the naysayers lessen your resolve to be great. Can you make resolutions and goals anytime of year you want? Yes. Does it take just as much resolve to stick to a goal starting June 1st as it does to stick to one starting January 1st? Yes. Whenever you choose to be more, do more, accomplish more, I just ask you stick with it. If you don’t, don’t blame it on resolutions.

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Wednesday Wisdom: Championship Point

27 Wednesday Jan 2010

Posted by Erica Welch in Uncategorized

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Australian Open, Ball, challenge, game, love, match, point, racket, rounds, serve, set, tennis, Wednesday Wisdom

***I thought a lot about how this would be any different from the Monday Meditation. The best I could come up with is, if the Monday Meditation is to present food for thought and get other’s opinions, this is more to share with you what I THINK I’ve learned in the world. It’s also food for thought, and maybe you have opinions about it, but I like to think of this as my own advice/old woman’s column.

Today’s title is: Life is like a Tennis Tournament (in honor of the Australian Open).

Life is like a tennis tournament. There are certain concessions and governing rules that, if followed, with a little belief and hard work, along with preparation and perspiration, can ensure that you go fair, maybe even win. Here are a few that I’ve gathered from a couple of weeks of tennis:

1. Carry extra rackets and lots of balls. Sometimes changing the racket or the ball can change your energy and flow of the game. You can’t change the fact that tennis is played with a racket and ball, but you can change which kind you play with and how you use it. If the game isn’t going well, maybe a new racket is all you need, one that has more strings, tighter strings, a more aerodynamic head–whatever compliments the way you play the game, you can use it.

2. When you have nothing, you have love. Each time you have a new game, you start with love–love is the beginning. There are no zeros in tennis scores. What the eye sees as zero the announcers call love. Sometimes all you have is love, and that’s fine, to begin with. Everyone starts at love; it’s a good place to begin.

3. This game is all about position and placement. Your position dictates whether or not you can return a ball, whether you can reach a ball before it’s dead. Where you place a ball determines whether your opponent can return or if you have a clear winner. You have to be in a position to place things where you mean for them to be, where they will be the most effective.

4. Sometimes you just have to stay in the point and wait for your opportunities for winners/ opponent’s errors. You can’t always dictate the play or the pace of the point. Sometimes you are on the defensive; all you can do is respond to where your opponent places the ball. But you can’t give up. Sometimes, if you manage to hang around long enough, your opponent will make a mistake, or you will get the chance to step up and hit the winner up the line.

5. Just because you lose the game or set doesn’t mean you’ve lost the match. Even if you get down to the wire, you can still pull it out if you have the mental tenacity. Take Serena yesterday. She was down a set and the score was 4-0. She was two points away from losing the match. But she won anyway. She never gave up. She fought and scraped her way back from the brink of the ledge to the top of the mountain. It was hard work, but it wasn’t over until it was over. Don’t count yourself out  until the match is over.

6.Know when to challenge/save your challenges for when they matter. One of the greatest (and worst) advancements in tennis is the shot spot technology. There’s no reason for a shot to haunt you. Was it in? Was it out? You can know for sure. But you have to use the challenges carefully, when they matter. Li Na challenged a call that saved her from going down a set (she eventually lost the set, but that reversed call bought her some time). Don’t use all of your challenges on petty calls that don’t effect the outcome of the point/game/set/match. You only get so many; don’t use them and be without when you really need one. Stand up for what you believe, but do it when it makes the maximum impact.

7. Each round has its own rewards. Now win goes unrewarded. Whether you win one round or the whole tournament, the number of wins you garner will be rewarded accordingly. None of your winning is in vain. You may not go all the way, but just moving forward gets recognition.

8. Some serves give you easy points. When you get the opportunity to dictate the point, give it your all. Go for the ace, the unchallenged point. Any point you don’t have to fight for is a rarity. Take advantage of the opportunity to avoid confrontation and pushback while still getting your point.

9. Might doesn’t always make right. Just overpowering someone doesn’t always work. Sometimes you have to know how to volley, hit a drop shot, finesse the ball in. If you hit too hard, the ball will land out of bounds. Power must be combined with position and placement to win the point.

10. Finally, ranking only selects your half of the draw; it’s anybody’s game. The only thing that matters is winning. An underdog can win it all, and often does. What position you start in doesn’t dictate what position you end up in. Win it all and you can move up in the rankings. Don’t let it your starting position deter you from trying to move up. The top is the only place you have to stop.

Yep, the Australian Open is a lot like life.

Serving for the match,

2blu2btru

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